So, a friend of mine posted this question/comment on Facebook, and I was compelled to respond:

Ladies why is it good guys finish last? The root of this question is listening to the Strawberry Letter on Steve Harvey and talking to a good friend today about relationship issues. Bad girls seem to get the decent guys and ladies ignore the good guys. The bad boys always wins? Need the ladies to give their opinions.

Here are the best responses I read, along with my responses:

• "Usually the men I deem as the "good guy" aren't after me. They seem a little judgmental and not so approachable too. Also most good girls were taught not to approach men first so personally it's hard for me to just spark a convo with a man whom I deem a "good guy" bc I don't want to look thirsty lol...plus I feel as though he was raised the same way. Lol smh"   

•  " Sometimes good guys choose bad girls just like some good guys choose bad guys. Haven't understood why that happens. Maybe some folks secretly like the drama that comes with dating a "bad" mate. ??"

• "The good guys don't like me....."

• "Here are my two-three cents.In my opinion the "slow and steady really wins the race". I say that to say this..most people who hurry into relationships do so for the wrong reasons that's destructive in my opinion.  

• "If you are really a good guy in your opinion, it is my opinion that you have acquired the knowledge and experience to understand the components of a good woman. As you utilize self discipline, your principles' and moral compass; in my opinion you have the required skill to make your ruling and in my opinion you won't finish last but first. You will finish first because that woman will become your wife. When you find your wife it is a good thing and if done right you will not have to start over again, you will be DONE! The guys that engage themselves in worthless relationships will have to start over again or pretend just to maintain an unhealthy relationship. Either way the guy that builds a relationship with powerful substance no matter how long it takes WINS! In my opinion and that was a mouth full!"

Here was my response:

"In my experience, good girls also finish last sometimes. Be honest, Gents. Y'all be outchea choosin these heauxes and bypass good women or treat a good woman badly because you aren't done running the streets, and #then want a good woman to settle down with, once you've been everywhere and done everything to just about everybody. #yuk #WhoWantsThat #KeepYourGerms #NoThanks. disclaimer: my experience, as well as that of lots of friends and associates, classmates, colleagues, etc. Extensive research here.

 Can we also suggest that no guy is always "good" neither forever "bad"? Isn't is possible for guy to be "bad" at some point, and then through self-discovery become a better man, aka a "good" guy? The same holds true for a woman. Hopefully as we mature, we grow out of destructive behaviors. I give everyone room for their own personal growth. However, it's not a good feeling to feel "overlooked" just because you demonstrate respect and good character. That's what I'm thinking is meant by "good" guys or girls "finish last," meaning there will, at some point, be someone we want to be with who isn't ready or willing to be committed to be with us. And they may choose to be with someone who, in our opinion, doesn't deserve them. There's always a chance of someone's intentions/affections not being returned. Love is a risk. Just like fruit at the grocery store, you know there's a risk going in. #Seinfeldreference...ha"

Moral of the story:  We should all have some "good" in us, guy or girl, and we should aspire to be good and live good.  We should also expect to find the person that matches our desire for good character.  It's possible, provided we don't limit our horizons too much, or allow stereotypes to dictate our choices.  

Any of us could potentially "finish last" no matter how "good" or "bad" we might be.  

Ultimately, we should upgrade our choices and decisions in maturity and choose a partner who can and will love us the way we each deserve to be loved: completely.