The #Real Deal

Guess what I just heard??

"There's all kind of good black men on BlackPeopleMeet.com." Really? Not so sure.

More often than not, people pretend to be something they're not on social networks. Sometimes it's not just that they stretch the truth to make their lives seem better than they actually are (even though that's a prevalent social network disease--Facebook Fakery, Twitter Tall-Tales, Instagram Impersonators).

Often, the face you see on the profile is #not even the person who owns the account. It's very easy for people to steal people's pictures/identity and pretend to be someone else via the Internet. Beware. The "Catfish" is real.

My Grandma Rose (R.I.P.) used to say to me, "There are some good men out there, but you got to see the person for who they are; you got to get to know they ways, Baby. Otherwise, you don't really know who you got." Wise lady.

There's something to be said for cultivating relationships the old fashioned way. A lot of the marriages who began from a simple "hello" in person are still thriving today.

Technology is great, but should never replace good ole' fashioned one-on-one, interpersonal interaction. Everything else, in my opinion is just a watered-down connection, and nowhere near as potent as the real thing.

So, to Match.com, Blackpeoplemeet.com, and yes even to you, ChristianMingle.com: I've seen the numerous commercials with all kinds of attractive people who supposedly met and built successful relationships through online dating sites. But, I'll pass. Thanks.

Talking in person: For when you want trout and not #catfish.

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